August 20th, 2008 by Jiles

When we’re talking about sex and online dating, we do feel compelled to tell you that you should never, ever do anything sexually that you aren’t comfortable with. Do not, under any circumstances, feel that you must have sex with someone just because they took you out on a date.

However, if you feel the urge, and the time is right, there are some steps you can take to insure the sex is awesome – even at your age!

Communication is the key to real intimacy. As your body changes in the senior years, it’s important to communicate your thoughts, feelings, fears, and desires with your partner. Encourage your partner to communicate fully with you, too. Improving your communication will help both of you feel closer and can make senior sex more pleasurable.

If you would like to try something new, discuss it with your partner, and be open to his or her ideas. The senior years, when you have more time and less distractions, can be a time of creativity and passion. Sometimes just talking about sex can make you feel sexy.
Think about sex in a new way. As a senior, you might not be as comfortable with some sexual positions as you once were, but this does not mean you need to give up an activity that is pleasurable for you, and miss out on feeling close to your partner.

Senior sex calls for creativity. Try different positions to find ones that please you and your partner. If erectile dysfunction is an issue, try intercourse with the woman on top, where hardness is less important. Experiment with positions that you both find comfortable and pleasurable. Make your senior years a time of sexual generosity and sharing.

Expand your sexual play beyond intercourse. Holding each other, gentle touching, kissing, and sensual massage are all ways to share passionate feelings. You might experiment with oral sex and masturbation as ways to please each other in bed.
Keep your mind and body healthy. If you exercise regularly and eat a healthy, balanced diet, you’ll look and feel better for yourself – and your partner. And a healthy body will help you enjoy senior sex, no matter what your age.

Keep fruits and vegetables high on your list, and limit the amount of alcohol you consume. Too much alcohol can decrease sexual function in both men and women.

Check with your health care provider to design a workout plan for yourself, and stick to it. Stretching, aerobics for your heart and strength training will all help you feel sexier and improve your stamina and flexibility.
And don’t underestimate the appeal of an active mind. Find activities you enjoy that stimulate your intellect and imagination, and share them with your partner. Seniors who enjoy their lives have their own special sexiness.

For all adults, not just seniors, medications and illness can affect your sexual drive. If you have questions about how prescriptions will affect senior sexuality, check with your health care provider.

If you notice any sexual problems, seek medical help as soon as possible. Your health care provider may be able to help you stay fit and active, as long as you’re willing to talk about what’s bothering you.

Finally, be true to yourself. Try to let go of expectations and things you think you should do as you enter the senior years. If you enjoyed an active sex life when you were younger, there’s no reason to slow down with age, unless you want to. On the other hand, if you are not especially turned on by sex but want to feel close to your partner, communicate your desires and find activities that please both of you.

Is there a time of day when you have the most energy? That’s the optimal time for sex. Mornings are often good if you’re refreshed from sleep, but anytime is fine if it works for you and your partner.

If you find in your senior years that it takes longer to become sexually aroused, start lovemaking with a romantic dinner – or breakfast. Share romantic or erotic literature and poetry, hold hands, touch often, and don’t be shy about saying what you love about each other.

You may have intercourse less often than you used to, but the closeness and love will still be there.

Be creative, loving, open-minded, and willing to communicate with your partner. You’ll find it’s possible to enjoy senior sex at any age.  Well, that’s about it for the tips and tricks. We do, however, want to let you know about some common online abbreviations you might encounter during your conversations.

August 15th, 2008 by Jiles

Many women have low self-esteem that can influence their attractive qualities that are naturally inside them. You need to change your way of thinking here and convince yourself that you’re worthy of a good relationship to complement everything that you are.

Low self-esteem is an aspect of your personality that has been cultivated over years and years. Tell yourself positive things including that you deserve to be loved and you deserve to continue living a healthy and full life. Confidence is the ultimate sexy trait in women, but avoid being too confident. A little humility is sexy as well.

If you think there just aren’t any good men out there, you’re wrong. This is a belief that has been bantered around for years. Some of this is rooted in past experiences. Still more is because you’ve set your expectations too high. No one is perfect and if you expect to find someone who is perfect, you’ll be disappointed.

As a mature woman, you have many great qualities that you should embrace and use to your advantage.

Remember when you were in the first throes of a new romance, all of a sudden you got hit on a lot? That’s because you radiated self-confidence; you were loved. Now, in your mature adult years, you should have plenty of self-confidence in your ability to balance a job, the ex, the kids, the bank account, the aging parents, friends, etc. Self-confidence is the biggest turn-on and once you’ve reached 50, you’ve got plenty of it.

And if you feel like you have to be demure and shy, get ride of that! You have the right to be a strong, sensual woman – even as a senior citizen. You don’t have to be that coy little chanteuse anymore. Assert yourself and enjoy the results!

Older women tend to be more daring as well. They’re the ones signing up for all that adventure travel. Odds are you’ll find more older women than men on cruises to the Antarctic, treks through Nepal and gorilla-watching expeditions in Africa.

Women are more liberated when the kids move out and allow them to reclaim the lives they put on hold decades ago with their first delivery. This liberation is empowering and can be very alluring.

Read the section above on how men can attract women and employ these strategies. If you’re interested in a man, look him in the eye, touch him lightly on the hand, twirl your hair (if possible) and make him know that you want to know more about him!

Above all, exude comfort with yourself. Know that you deserve to find love and companionship and let him know that. When you are confident, you will be stronger and that’s what surviving in the dating world is really all about.

We’re getting ready to tread on controversial territory next, but we feel like we need to address the obvious outcome that is likely to come from dating and relationships. Can seniors have a vibrant and satisfying sex life? Absolutely!